frankly, my dear, i don't give a damn

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toopaletofunction:

staythatswhatimeanttosay:

One nation, under Canada, above Mexico.

with liberty and justice for some 

stupidhuman-shitforbrains asked: Can you explain more about why you're against spanking? I agree, I'd just like to hear what you have to say.

j0ye:

  • it is hurting someone
  • your child, specifically, who should not be hurt by you of all people
  • it doesnt work in the long term
  • it develops trust issues
  • it is reliant on fear, and teaches them to be afraid instead of actually learning what they did and how to self-discipline (i.e., “mommy spanked me when i tried crossing the road by myself, so i shouldn’t do it in front of her so i don’t get spanked” instead of “mommy told me i could get hurt if i cross the road by myself, so i won’t do it”)
  • it asserts the ideology of stronger = right, and that because someone hurts you they are correct
  • it shows that violence solves issues, which causes your child not only to normalize violence, but to partake in it
  • it disregards bodily autonomy (as in people not touching you without your consent)
  • it hurts their self-esteem, as well as affects their mental health, and their intelligence
  • it becomes a gateway to harsher abuse due to desensitization
  • it creates detachment of the parent/child bond
  • it normalizes degrading and harmful behavior on the parent’s end
  • it continues on the cycle of abuse
  • it’s just overall shitty don’t hit someone, especially not someone who is smaller than you, defenseless, and VERY easily affected by it ok just don’t

jewist:

the worst is having a dream where someone loves you and you can practically feel them touching you and it feels so real and then you wake up and it’s like the life is being sucked out of you and the happiness just drains out of your body and you feel empty again

mytinyisabella:

There’s a special place in hell for people who use the excuse “I’m busy” when in reality you make time for what you want to make time for, & for people who can be on social networks but not reply back to my text.

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